Your life purpose is the same as everyone else

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We tend to look for purpose like it’s gold at the end of the rainbow.

I traveled worldwide to find it.

It took me years and lots of coaching later, but I finally realized that the answers were inside of myself.

It may sound cliche to say it. But often the deepest and hardest-to-realize truths are the simplest: Your life purpose is becoming the best version of yourself. That’s true for you, for me, and for everyone else.

Yes you’ll need to take action, and go to places you’ve never been, outside and inside of yourself, to find it.

But no matter how far you go, in the end it’s a homecoming.

Here are some questions to ask if you find yourself longing for greater purpose or your “life purpose” even:

  1. What am I feeling called to do in this life?

Realizing your purpose depends on one very important factor: Freedom.

If you don’t feel as though you are a free agent in this life (even with your various responsibilities and commitments), you will struggle to connect with your purpose, period.

In spiritually inclined personal development circles, this is also referred to as “victim mentality.” It’s harsh phrasing. And those who have been victims in reality are more likely to have it. I have a lot of compassion. Regardless of how it came about and is being reinforced currently, evolving out of it is part and parcel of the journey toward realizing purpose.

Michael Beckwith distinguished 4 stages of spiritual consciousness we can go through:

  1. To me — This is the same as victim mentality as we see life as happening to us — for better or for worse. Often it has a negative tone, blaming ourselves, our others or the world for not being “as it should.” It can also look like various forms of distraction and numbing, and expecting something or someone else to support us and make us happy.

Finding purpose is a journey through these 4 stages. Some people stay in #1 their whole lives. Lots of successful people remain in #2, wondering from time to time or often “Is this it?” Others achieve glimpses of #3 and #4 only to fall back again, tripping on ongoing unfinished business of being imperfect and human.

Finding purpose AKA becoming our best selves is a journey of a lifetime — literally — and it can be greatly expedited if we’re open and wiling to make the trip.

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Psychologist, success coach, believer in solid behavioral science and the power of tuning in.

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Casey Onder, PhD

Psychologist, success coach, believer in solid behavioral science and the power of tuning in.