Success Guilt No More

Casey Onder, PhD
2 min readJan 14, 2024
Adapted Photo by Sean Benesh on Unsplash

Do you feel a bit guilty at times about how good you have it, and/or your success? How about your loftiest goals and ambitions?

The instinct to succeed, achieve and excel doesn’t need to be shackles on the one hand, or self-indulgent on the other: It’s a means to greater ends and raw material to truly help.

So many of us are blessed with the opportunity to wield our gifts and resources to greatest benefit, personally and collectively. Along the way we get to upskill, becoming more complete and unrestricted expressions of our capabilities and most vital professional selves.

If you’re committed to your growth and development, a few guideposts that IME make a world of difference:

  • Be determined: Keep going, challenges are opportunities.
  • Be flexible: Adapt your approach and perspective en route.
  • Be spirited: Believe in your capabilities and the possibilities.
  • Be aware: Of current strengths and skill, knowledge or resource gaps.
  • Be collaborative: Invest in win-win relationships and plenty of help.

Beyond that…

Do good, feel good, do well — releasing the righteousness and rigidity that can come with. Be creative and embrace reality with eyes, ears and heart wide open. Without its opposite or a range of possibilities, no experience, value, quality or ideal by definition would exist…

Drop the guilt, fears of judgment or jealousy, and self-smallifying.

You get to choose how to leverage what you’re given

And can get…

To lead your life’s work

And how you want to be led.

Enjoy and go get em :)

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Casey Onder, PhD

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