Out with the old, in with the new

Casey Onder, PhD
2 min readDec 18, 2022
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If I asked what would be possible if you let go of XYZ pattern stopping you from desired results, you might say “anything.”

Letting go doesn’t give direction. It gives access to freedom to choose.

I’ve let go of a number of limiting patterns in my work:

>> Overcalculating at the cost of my contentment >> Thinking it’s never good enough >> Being in the weeds, not delegating >> “I should” and “I must” >> Attachment to financial stability >> Overpolishing and perfectionism >> Napping on the job (?!) >> Coasting (and overwork) >> Impostor syndrome, hiding behind a facade >> Not asking for help

What are limiters for you to get to the next level?

Letting go is hard when we’re used to what we know (even when we don’t like it, and especially when we do).

Courage and motivation to transform require compelling reasons — solving for major pain points and seemingly je ne sais quoi drivers like passion, love and purpose.

I’ve had my share of professional achievements, some of my proudest have been what I gave up.

If you want to create real and lasting change, you’ll need to give up patterns that limit you and self-perpetuate, which won’t go away on their own. In terms of Kurt Lewin, we need to unfreeze old ways, enact change, and refreeze changes into our new ways of being and habits.

“If it meant nothing to us, there’d be no Resistance… Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.”

Steven Pressfield

Your awareness, intentionality and honest effort to let go create space for change that lasts.

What do you want, by when?

Where are you stuck?

What needs letting go to make way for the new?

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Casey Onder, PhD

Executive Coach | Psychologist | PhD. Follow me on LinkedIn or sign up for my newsletter @ caseyonder.com.