If you’ve heard the saying “If it’s not a heck yes, it’s a no,” you probably know that boundaries in relationships are much more nuanced. The below principles have worked well for me, in my work as well as personally.
Want to improve/empower your relationships?
See if 1+ of the below principles resonates. Try it on for size. What would it look and feel like in practice for you? Be detailed, sensory, tangible. What’s worthwhile about the change(s)? What would they open up and make available?
Declaration of Boundaried Interdependence
- I’m clear on what’s mine, and what’s yours.
- I’m a yes to some things and a no to others. At any given moment I know what those are.
- I honor my yes’s and no’s — and yours.
- I’m responsible for what’s mine — not what’s yours. I may help you or request/receive offers to help if I choose to.
- Any value I provide is ultimately voluntary.
- I strive to be conscious, compassionate and *not* complacent about potential compromises (as well as real/perceived aggressions and impositions) I or others may be making.
- My relationships are mutually empowering, enjoyable, creative and 100% consensual.
Happy interdependence :)
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