Fear is an old friend of mine, and much of the common advice — be bold, you’re a rock star, follow your why, and variations on YOLO/IDGAF — for me did not produce reliable results.

Why? Because I haven’t always seen that fear is my sticking point to begin with. It’s easy to get into our heads and trick ourselves into thinking that the issue isn’t fear, but something else — including something that exists beyond our control/capacity to cope.

Personally, I’m an expert at lone wolfing, taking the easy route, overanalyzing decisions, and perfectionism. Guilty AF. All things that…

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Ah, entrepreneurship. Freedom, impact on your terms, deep and inspired missions, limitless opportunity, clear blue skies and a great wide open. And… potential for failure and free fall, the likelihood of significant challenges, the chance you could face plant so hard your face will never look the same again. Not to mention the occupational hazards of self-doubt, confusion, burnout and isolation.

It’s a land of creative spirit fairies, where unknowns are many and external resources can be relatively scarce.

Fear is designed to help us survive, but in the case of entrepreneurship it’s often the very thing that stops us…

Recently psychologist Adam Grant wrote an article in the NYTimes on languishing or a sense of “blah” at work that so many people are experiencing right now. He doesn’t mention leisure time as a solution — but it may be just what the doctor ordered.

Grant defines languishing as a sense of stagnation and emptiness, somewhere between burnout and fulfillment.

Ring a bell?

It’s a truism in psychology: The absence of mental illness is not the same as health and flourishing.

You might be languishing if:

  • You don’t feel especially excited about your work or future, but you’re not hopeless…

When I was 16 I opened a Roth IRA, funded with leftovers from my $6/hour job at Dairy Queen. I spent most of that summer handing out soft serve and eating my “mistakes.” I was awestruck by the possibilities of compounding interest.

Most of my early adulthood decisions — college, jobs, and career goals — were largely financially based. It wasn’t about being rich. It was about doing what I thought I ought to and it was about feeling safe. In other words, LOTS of scarcity mindset.

Investment is defined as “the action or process of investing money for profit…

Feel like you’re “wearing golden handcuffs,” “chained to your desk,” or “a corporate cog?” You’re not alone, and there are real solutions that aren’t just hopping from job to job or going off the grid entirely.

To re-infuse your work with joy and meaning, you’ll likely need to do some internal work and self discovery. Because knowing you don’t belong or want to be where you are is the tip of the iceberg. …

Perfectionism has us feeling pulled around and “posing” constantly if we let it.

High standards are helpful — except when they’re emotionally crippling and stunt our growth…

As a (partially) recovered perfectionist and coach to high achievers, this is a topic I know all too well. Here are 5 ways to replace perfectionism with healthier forms of striving. Embodying these and routinely practicing them in your work life will go a long way toward eliminating this exhausting and self-defeating pattern.

  1. Celebrate and reward your progress. Perfectionism is “never enough” and “never done,” so celebrating in a heartfelt way — gasp, even before you’re finished! — breaks up the pattern. Simply taking a moment…

There are lots of reasons we fall out of love with our work, or were never were in love to begin with. But at the core there is only one reason: You aren’t fully showing up.

Maybe your environment or responsibilities aren’t supportive, or maybe you have internal barriers. Usually it’s a combination.

So you’re going through the motions, doing what needs done, maybe doing it well or maybe badly, feeling something between pained and bored and hungry for more. …

Ah, the joys of remote work. Who wouldn’t want to work where they want, when they want, from a private home office (if you have the space), wearing their favorite pajama bottoms?

With companies turning to remote and hybrid work arrangements on a permanent basis, there’s no better time to master the art of WFH.

Unfortunately, if you’re used to office work you likely have some struggles. There are family interruptions, the high potential for distractions, the loneliness factor, and the pressure or pull to be constantly “on.”

Here are 5 tips for unblurring blurred WFH boundaries:

1 If you…

I had no idea I was kicking off a spiritual adventure when I quit my job to travel abroad in 2018. I’m grateful for the lessons learned — and I have lots. Here are 10 ways to navigate and thrive if you’re questioning your career or life direction, sensing that something is missing, or have other tell-tale signs of a career, existential, spiritual, or identity crisis — or if you’re experiencing multiple at once.

1. Know that feeling lost, confused, or down is a normal and necessary part of the process.

This is where people often start, even if these feelings are accompanied by a sense of excitement and a renewed sense of possibilities and freedom. Old…

Casey Onder, PhD

Psychologist, success coach, believer in solid behavioral science and the power of tuning in.

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